“I will never photograph my father again.”

My father and my son, twenty-five years ago.

My father and my son, twenty-five years ago.

My father died on January 26. He had been on hospice care for almost two years, so as my wife put it, “It wasn’t a surprise, but still managed to be a shock.”

89 and looking like a movie star

89 and looking like a movie star

Everyone grieves differently, and to most, I do not appear to grieve at all. My knee-jerk response to most forms of stress is to get busy. Contact the authorities; review the paperwork; take care of business. Sorrow has to sneak up and jump me unaware. As it happens, sorrow is quite the ninja warrior. I was collecting photographs for the slideshow embedded below, and the thought hit me: I will never photograph my father again. That did it. A good long cry. And the pleasant realization that in most photos of my father, he is laughing.

Dad died a month shy of his 90th birthday, but he could still rock an Eisenhower jacket like no one I know.

Dad died a month shy of his 90th birthday, but he could still rock an Eisenhower jacket like no one I know.

A special thanks to friend Myrna Cambianica, who encouraged me to keep shooting, through thick and thin. Thanks to these photos, I can grieve with a smile on my face. http://youtu.be/9z–2Bo511E

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4 responses to ““I will never photograph my father again.”

  1. Tina Horton

    I wish I could have met your father. I’m sure he was as beautiful inside as he was out. My thoughts are with you, Dean.

  2. No matter how expected it is it’s never easy. My heart goes out to you.

  3. Jude conroy

    So sorry for your loss Dean. I still miss my dad very much. I’m glad you ‘kept shooting’ as the photographic memories lend themselves to wonderful memories.

  4. Simon Conrad

    I am 60 years old, and from the time I was a little boy the soldiers of your father’s generation were my heroes. They still are.

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